Why Am I So Hard on Myself About Feeling Anxious?
You felt anxious. Again. Maybe you snapped at someone you love, bailed on plans you wanted to keep or laid awake at 3 am running through every possible way a
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How to Stop Being So Hard on Yourself When You Slip Up
There’s something about good mental health that I think is often misunderstood. A lot of people believe the goal is to have no more bad days. No more triggers. No
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How to Stop Obsessive Looping Thoughts (Without Fighting Your Brain)
You know the feeling. Something happens—maybe a comment that lands a little off, a text that goes unanswered, a thought that slips in sideways—and suddenly your brain is off to
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Thoughts Are Thoughts: Manifesting and Just Do Nothing
A few years back, I wrote “You Cannot Manifest Your OCD,” and it continues to be one of my most popular blog articles. I thought it might be interesting to
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Before You Can Let Them, You Need this Skill
When your partner leaves dishes in the sink for the third day in a row, what happens inside you? Maybe your chest tightens. Maybe your mind starts building a case:
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Making a Change When You Need It
I’ve sat with many people who were ready to make a change but couldn’t figure out why they kept getting stuck. Smart, capable, motivated people who read all the books,
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Why Do You Worry at Night (And How to Get Some Sleep)
Ever since having kids, sleep’s been harder for me. Trouble falling asleep, trouble staying asleep—and it’s only gotten worse with age (like everything else). I spend a lot of time
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How to Stop Getting So Mad So Easily: PAUSE
Your child asks you if they can stay up past bedtime, which is a simple request. Yet somehow, in the space between their question and your response, your nervous system
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How to Parent Better by Doing Less: Just Do Nothing
Parenting is hard. Whatever your circumstances, it’s just hard. For me, it became harder after my divorce because now I was a single parent with all the feelings that go
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Make Doing Something Hard Easier: How to Scale the Change
I recently read a Substack article by Jud Brewer, MD, PhD, who wrote Unwinding Anxiety and The Craving Mind, about distress tolerance and the value of teaching it to our
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Doing Hard Things: Tipping Points & Needle Movers
Have you ever found yourself surprised by something you’ve accomplished? Maybe you ran 1.25 miles instead of your 1-mile goal. Maybe, after years of telling yourself that you’re not someone
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A Process to Completely Change Your Life
If you’ve spent any time scrolling through self-help content, you’ve probably seen countless promises about how to completely change your life in 30 days, 7 steps, or one transformative moment.
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