You might be surprised to know that I’m a huge Howard Stern fan. I have been for years. In the current issue of Rolling Stone, Howard talks extensively about how going to therapy has helped him in life. (You might have seen me share the article on my Facebook and Instagram pages.) I’ve always appreciated...
Someone asked me recently to define my professional goal. The first thought that popped into my head was to be FEARLESS! (cue Superman theme song) But that’s not possible, really. I’m human, and fear is part of the human condition. As I tell my clients, my kids, and myself — it’s about being scared and...
Every day, I take a 20-minute nap. I call it my 22-minute nap: one minute to fall asleep, 20 to sleep, and one minute to wake up. I was talking to a friend the other day and mentioned it. She was fascinated. I think what strikes people most about this glorious habit of mine is...
Last week, I tried to help you figure out if you’re stuck. Acknowledging that you’re stuck is important, because we cannot fix something if we don’t know it needs fixing. So I know you’ve been waiting for the answer to the question how do I get myself unstuck? … drumroll … To best answer this,...
As part of my Behavior Therapy Training Institute Certification for Pediatric OCD, I had the amazing experience of having Dr. Marty Franklin as my faculty consultant. As we were discussing some of my cases, he said to me “He who values comfort over function shall have neither.” These words have stuck with me, because they resonate...
Last Monday, we introduced the first phase of Ester Perel’s Healing from Infidelity, called the Crisis Phase. Today, we’re going to learn about phase two, which is called the Making Meaning Phase. This phase happens whenever we’re able to see through our emotions. There’s no timeline for this, so please don’t hurry yourself. It’ll happen...
This is the final article in our three-part series about Ester Perel’s Healing from Infidelity phases. If you’re just joining me, you can read about Phase One here and Phase Two here. It recap, I’d like to share with one of my favorite quotes from her book The State of Affairs about Phases 1 and...
February isn’t all hearts and chocolates for everyone. If you’re one of the many who are dealing with the fallout of a partner’s affair, it can be downright painful. One of my specialties is helping people move through life changes, so last year, I went to an all-day workshop called Healing from Infidelity. The speaker...
My son is learning to drive. Talk about anxiety! his is one of those situations where I really have to be aware of my verbal and nonverbal communication. If I’m not aware of my words and actions, the driving lesson is a disaster. For example, if I’m worried he’s going to hit the curb, I’ll...
Recently I found myself saying yes to way too many things in way too short of time. In a single weekend, I found myself driving six hours a day (locally!), and my margin between commitments was seven minutes. Can you relate? Tell me! Given that this describes the life of most parents I know, the...