How to Stop Being So Hard on Yourself When You Slip Up
There’s something about good mental health that I think is often misunderstood. A lot of people believe the goal is to have no more bad days. No more triggers. No
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Before You Can Let Them, You Need this Skill
When your partner leaves dishes in the sink for the third day in a row, what happens inside you? Maybe your chest tightens. Maybe your mind starts building a case:
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How to Parent Better by Doing Less: Just Do Nothing
Parenting is hard. Whatever your circumstances, it’s just hard. For me, it became harder after my divorce because now I was a single parent with all the feelings that go
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A Process to Completely Change Your Life
If you’ve spent any time scrolling through self-help content, you’ve probably seen countless promises about how to completely change your life in 30 days, 7 steps, or one transformative moment.
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Making the Change? Whatever It Is, You’ll Need This.
There are many ingredients to change, and this is one that we don’t often think about. If you’re looking to make a change in your life, you’ll want to read this.
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Why Is It Hard to Say Goodbye?
As my youngest child prepares to leave for college, I’ve been thinking a lot about saying goodbye — about how we say goodbye and that no matter how much I’ve
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What Pickleball Taught Me About Relaxing Into Discomfort
I was at an event for my book the other night when someone asked if certain skills in the book required more time to learn and practice. I thought it
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Define Your Non-Negotiables for Good Mental Health
To maintain good mental health, we need to consistently practice the skills that helped us recover in the first place. Chances are, we’ve put a lot of work into new
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What Does It Mean to Accept Anxiety?
There’s a paradox when it comes to getting unstuck or managing* excess anxiety. It’s only when you accept the anxiety or discomfort — when you allow it to be there
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Why Change Is So Damn Hard (And How to Make It Easier)
If you’ve followed me for any length of time or if you’ve read my book Just Do Nothing: A Paradoxical Guide to Getting Out of Your Way, you know I’m
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7 Ways to Practice Building Your Distress Tolerance
As we continue our journey into distress tolerance, I want to give you actions that help illustrate what it means in everyday life. Most anxiety relief tips actually give you
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3 Ways to Flex Your Distress Tolerance Muscle
Here’s a little story for you. I thought I was fairly distress tolerant … until we had to do rowing time trials at the end of a grueling workout. I
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